To A Breadwinner Who Prioritizes His/Her Family Before His/Her Romantic Relationship

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I’m so proud of you,

It was admirable and unselfish to do things for the sake of family needs. People who have to go abroad to provide for their families will never be able to spend more time with their families. You desire to make a sacrifice for the happiness of your loved ones. Perhaps you want to start a relationship, but this obstacle prevents you from doing so.

Knowing because you’re the only provider on the table. What will happen if you decide to get married, for instance? What will your family’s future be like?

Those are valid questions, but let me tell you something: when God creates everything, he owns everything. You might be worried about what other people will think if you decide to get married.

Those questions may be bothering you for quite some time. I’m not recommending that you get into a relationship right now.

Learn to recognize that there is always a solution to any problem. Perhaps you don’t have the answer right now, and you’ve become used to being the breadwinner, then you’ve begun to accept that your role is to become an obedient daughter or son.

But I want you to know that God is aware of your problems and even hardships even if you think it’s impossible, don’t ignore the idea of marriage. God always will figure out a way, put your faith in him. Enjoy your work while providing for your family, and then look forward to seeing what God has in store for you.

Trust his timing; he knew that you’re going to ask for that before you do. Maybe we don’t have what we want because we don’t ask for it.

I’d like to share with you this verse.

Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and you shall find; knock, and it shall be opened to you: For every one that asks receives; and he that seeks finds; and to him that knocks it shall be opened’ (Matthew 7:7–8)

Ask for what you want, even a life partner. God will never give us something that will cause us sorrow. Perhaps you might ponder how your family will be able to survive without your help.

how they can strive for their success. Don’t take away the joy that they can find on their own, no matter how small the amount is.

Probably your biggest concern is what will happen if you start a family.

Knowing this truth, you will be OK, and you will be able to assist your family, even if you are planning to start a family. But first, seek advice from other couples who’ve had similar experiences. This will provide you with insight and practical advice, and the confidence to make logical decisions.