One of the reasons why many of us are impatient to be with someone is because we think that singleness is not a blessing but a curse. We think that the long period of time of waiting is a punishment from God. As a matter of fact, it is not. Always remember that He is always for the joy of His children—you and me. If God’s desire for you is to have a spouse, He will give it to you at His appointed time and not in your timeline.
Singleness should not be an issue that needs to be solved because once you understand that your season as a single person is a blessing from God and not a curse, you will have a new perspective on how to handle it and will view it as an opportunity for growth and not a closed door. You will see it as an opportunity to live life to the fullest: free from the burden of unnecessary pain from self-inflicted wounds caused by haste and impatience. God loves His children so much that He will close any door of tragedy caused by relationship—unless you deliberately and consciously choose the wrong one.
God Is Preparing You
Maybe one of the good reasons why you are still single is God is still preparing you and the person you would eventually be with to be the man or woman He wanted you to be. So when the time comes that God sees the both of you are already prepared, He will make a way for the both of you to meet each other in His perfect time and in the proper season because that’s how the perfect Author of love writes a love story.
You don’t know the end, but He knows. You may read the first to four chapters of your life and understand that there is no one beside you, but who knows if God already penned it and hopefully, in chapter five or six, the man or woman reading it is with you already.
Singleness Is Not A Burden
Singleness will be a burden for a person who doesn’t know his or her purpose. Some of the reasons why we feel that this season is such a burden is because we tend to compare ourselves with others and we think that it is too late for us to be in a relationship or God has already forgotten our prayer to be with someone else.
If you just know your purpose in life, singleness will never be a burden but a blessing. You will never be desperate or frustrated to search or find the suitable partner of your life because knowing the purpose why He created you will give you joy to remain steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain (1 Cor. 15:58).
Therefore, singleness is not the time to complain about why is it still so long to be with someone else. This is the perfect time to be thankful to God that throughout this single season of our lives, He is still there. He is still faithful even we are faithless. He never leaves us alone whenever we feel hopeless. He is still comforting, sustaining and strengthening us when we feel weak in this single life.
The Real Issue Is Your Relationship With God
The real issue in your season today is not actually about your singleness, whether you are wasting or maximizing it, but the main issue here is your relationship with God. Do you trust Him? Do you trust His Word? His breathed (2 Tim. 3:16)? Do you trust Him when He says that all things—good or bad—will work together for your good (Rom. 8:28)? That no matter what you are going through today in your singleness God knows it, He feels it, and He governs it? Do you trust Him with all His promises to you? That His word that goes out from His mouth from the Bible will not return to Him empty, but He will accomplish what He desires and will achieve the purpose for which He sent it (Isa. 55:11)? Which only means that not one word of all the good promises that the LORD had made to you will fail and all will come to pass (Jos. 21:45) and all those who put their hope and trust in Him will not be disappointed or will never be put to shame (Isa. 49:23).
Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Heb. 13:8). Remember the past. Remember how God miraculously provided for you in your bills, in your tuition fee, and during those times that you needed financial provision. Remember how He heals you– your sickness, your broken heart and those impossible diseases. Remember His faithfulness to you; those answered prayers, also those blessings that you didn’t ask for.
God looks mainly in your heart and not on what you are doing in your singleness life. He is more excited seeing you coming to Him and asking for help, saying “Lord, I need your grace, I can’t do this with my own”. He delights whenever you depend all your being onto Him, all your plans in the future, your skills and abilities. Your waiting, preparing and training in this season are not in vain as you acknowledge Him from the start to finish. Go back to Him. Let’s finish the race!
