It’s been years and the wait is over. You woke up one day smiling and saying to yourself, “I am ready.”
But wait! Before you say your sweet yes to the man pursuing you, take time to read this.
I myself is an ambassador for waiting and during those years of waiting, I have gathered for myself some advices from True Love Waits seminars that I have attended, courtship and marriage books, and most importantly biblical principles that would help me when the time comes that I will be choosing a mate. These are my personal conviction I hope some of these would apply to you.
1. Choose a godly man.
This is the first thing to consider whenever you encounter people who have shown interest in you. Is he a godly man? A godly man isn’t just someone who goes to church every Sunday. He is someone who prioritizes God in every aspect of his life. He reads God’s word and lives by it. I prefer to stand by this principle because as someone who loves God, I also need someone who loves God more than anything else in this world.
2. Choose someone who will lead you towards Christ.
If you found someone described in number 1, it will be easy to fulfil this. Biblically, a man of God leads his family towards a closer relationship with the LORD. He is the spiritual leader in the family. I’d shy away from someone who acts immaturely especially if he does things that are not well pleasing to the Lord.
3. Choose someone approved by your parents and spiritual family.
Why would these people involve themselves? They are not the one to choose and they surely are not the one to be in this relationship. Some of you may be thinking this but remember, your parents or your spiritual family’s opinion matters. When you fancy someone, you might not see clearly his negative attributes. Your parents or your spiritual family might see past the surface and who knows, they may be saving you from a heartache.
4. Choose someone who can provide.
A man who can build and nurture a family is definitely on the list. Would you want someone who still depends on his parents financially? I’m not saying you should be totally dependent on him financially, however, biblically speaking, a man should provide for his family. We want someone who can provide for our future family’s needs not someone who relies on his parents even when he is past the age of getting employed or having a livelihood.
5. Choose someone who is mature.
You definitely wouldn’t want someone who can’t decide properly for himself, right? You need a man who is wise in making decisions because indiscretion can either build or slowly tear apart a home.
Observe the one you are interested in. A mature and responsible man does simply as doing his part of the household chore not just idling around.
6. Keep someone who respects you.
When you find someone whom you have chosen to be with for the rest of your life, ask yourself these question. Does he respect your parents? Showing respect to your parents is one way of expressing his respect to you. Showing respect doesn’t mean just pleasantly greeting your mom or dad when he visits you at home. It might also mean, bringing you home before curfew time.
Does he treat you in all purity? I know, I know it will be harder especially if you have grown intimacy together. A man of God, respects your decision to be untouched. He will wait when the time comes.
I hope this would help you decide in choosing a man you would like to be with for the rest of your life. A piece of advice to all the women out there. I have heard this from one of the seminars I have attended and I agree with what it says, “Be the right person for the right person.”
Ladies, if we have set standards for a man, we should also set standards for ourselves. We ought to ready ourselves during the waiting years. Train yourself how to be a godly wife. Learn from the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31. If you are still waiting like me, let us take the path of godly womanhood, shall we? Our journey is still on. God bless!