Warriorprincess, these are the things that you should consider before allowing someone to court you. Ninjamover, these are the things that you should know before making the first step. Let’s raise up a standard in this world full of mediocrity.
Women, first of all, you are worth the pursuit. You are not meant to be a chaser. Hindi ka aso, besh. Do not settle for less, you don’t deserve a man who is not willing to go extramile for you. Hindi ka mapapakain ng gwapo lang. So you should raise up a standard. There’s nothing wrong with it, after all. Raising up a standard is raising up men. Real men. It may seem like you’re giving them a hard time pursuing you, but stick with the fact that you do it and you have it because you train them to become a better version of themselves before they take a hold of you.
Let’s start with this highest standard of all— choose the one who really love God more than he loves you. They are rare nowadays. Very rare. You might see a guy who goes to church every Sunday, but it’s rare to see a guy who cries out to God and talk to God every night. You might see a guy whose voice is good, but it’s rare to see a guy who uses it for the Lord. You might see a guys whose grades are flat 1, but it’s rare to see a guys who reads the bible.
Ang mga lumuhod lang kay Lord, ang may karapatan lumuhod sa harap mo.
Because if someone has prayed for you along the way before he pursue you, before he propose to you, before he marry you— rest assured, you are in a safe hands.
Second, choose the one who honors his family no matter what. Because if that’s the case, then he will honor your family and your future family too. Even when things get rough, even when things go complicated, even when things are falling apart in his family— still, he will honor them. He loves them still.
Bihira ka nang makakakita ng lalaking nagmamano sa magulang, nilalabas ang nanay, nakikipagkwentuhan sa tatay, tinutulungan ang kapatid, naglilinis ng kusina at banyo, naghuhugas ng plato. Hindi ko sinasabing maghanap ka ng katulong, ang sinasabi ko pumili ka ng totoong lalaki.
Becoming a real man starts with God, family comes next.
Lastly, choose the one who is not perfect. Mistakes are inevitable. Flaws are given. And it’s okay. Choose someone who acknowlege his lapses; who admit his faults. The one who is open to corrections and rebukes. Bihira na lang ang lalaking hindi takot sa pag-iimprove.
Test their strength. Challenge them. Train them. Raise up a standard, women of God. Choose wisely.