“You’ll never have to negotiate your way into a heart that wants you there”
Is it just me or for some reason we love someone so hard thinking “If I show them how much I love them, how patient I could be in our relationship, if I give them enough love, they will see my worth. If I can just show them the bright future we could have, he/she will stop playing games and I will be treated better.”
Sis, people are not complicated. Even a person who tells you “I’m not ready yet” will be ready if you’re really who they want. Don’t disrespect yourself by making the extra mile in exerting effort, sacrifice for someone who isn’t ready for you. Never ask for signs, a red flag is a red flag. Nothing you do will make a person change for you. They’re not going to be the person you want them to be because you’re not the person they want to be with. If the effort and actions aren’t there, the pain will be present. PERIOD. Respect yourself enough to walk away and always remember that you are too good for someone who isn’t sure about you. Once you realize you deserve better, letting go will be your best decision ever.
“You will be shocked, kids, when you discover how easy it is in life to part ways with people forever. That’s why when you find someone you want to keep around, you do something about it.” —Ted Mosby from How I met your mother
Growing up, I noticed that people are willing to do anything — sacrifice, katangahan, forgiveness, efforts, for any relationships they want to keep. I keep reminding myself to value everyone & everything in my life because it takes an instant to change everything. A quote I read said “people don’t belong to us. And that’s the beauty of it all. Because the ones who stay, stay because they want to and not because you need them to.” But at some point, you need to accept and realize that some things aren’t meant to be yours. Remember that you will never lose what is for you, that the right things will always connect.
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