“Kung hindi ikaw, hindi rin sila.”
Sounds romantic, doesn’t it? Parang sa mga teleserye o k-drama na mapapanood mo, where the lead character confidently declares that line to the person they love… ang sweet, ‘di ba? But behind those words is a tough reality—it’s the kind of loyalty that slowly makes you lose yourself without even noticing.
It’s wild how, at first, it really looks like true love—kasi you stay, you wait, you fight for the person you love kahit minsan…ang labo na ng pinaglalaban mo. You hold on to that classic line hopeless romantics always say: “Kasi mahal ko siya. Kaya kong tiisin.” But as time passes, you start losing bits of yourself, sacrificing your happiness, dreams, and sometimes even your self-worth—just to stay loyal to someone who can’t, or won’t, meet you halfway.
When Holding On Becomes Holding You Back
There’s a thin line between staying loyal and slowly losing yourself. Real love should help you grow, not make you shrink. But sometimes, loyalty becomes the reason we endure everything—even when it’s already hurting us.
You tell yourself, “Maybe they’ll change,”
Or “At least I’m the one who’s still holding on.”
But the real question is: hanggang kailan, at anong kapalit?
Letting Love In Beyond the ‘Kung Hindi Ikaw, Hindi Rin Sila’ Mindset
When you’re not open to love—whether it’s from others or even from yourself—it’s like you’re keeping your heart locked away, afraid to let anyone in. You tell yourself, “Kung hindi ikaw, hindi rin sila,” thinking that you can only love one person or that you can’t give love to anyone else.
You miss out on the beauty of love in all its forms, babe.
You’re missing out on the love that could bring healing, joy, and growth…sayang naman, diba?
Love isn’t about holding on to just one thing or one person; it’s about allowing yourself to experience the connection, the warmth, and the beauty that life has to offer.
When Love Shouldn’t Cost You Your Peace
Loyalty is beautiful—there’s no doubt about that. It shows strength, commitment, and how deeply you can love someone. But what people don’t always talk about is how loyalty, when misplaced, can slowly become your prison. It should never cost you your peace of mind, your dreams, or your sense of self.
If this hits close to home, this is your gentle reminder:
You deserve the same love you’re so willing to give. And no, you don’t have to stay loyal to pain just to prove your love.
