I can’t think of a better way to start writing this thing but to say that in every voice of a single’s cry is a heart full of hope that someday, it will be somebody’s “mine“.
“Stop looking for LOVE at all the wrong places. TRUE LOVE has found you. “, those were the words that struck me n the talk of The Feast I attended last February 14, 2018. “TRUE LOVE has found you. “. Everyone wowed, clapped and cheered on those lines. We all know that there is no truer love than the love of God who gave His only begotten son (Jesus) for us. We believed that. We now that. And on that evening I can say that everyone went home with a heart full of love and hope. But what comes after that day? Do you stop looking for love at the wrong place? Or do you just stop looking for love? How do you know that you’re looking at the wrong place? Does it come with a warning, a sign?
Do you also ask these questions; why do I always fall for the wrong person? How do I find love if I would not look for it? They say love is a work, do I just stay or go look of it? How do I content myself with being single for now?
I once watched a video online about a guy explaining why women always fall for the wrong guy. He describes the wrong guy as those men with full of confidence, those who always have the courage to come up to women. While on the other hand, the right guy or the good guys are those the “shy type “ kind of guys, waiting for the right timing to talk to you, thinking of ways how to approach you. They’re the ones that is always waiting. So how do you get the right guy talk to you? Be open for the first five minutes. Let him know that it is okay to talk to you and get to know you. After meeting the right guy, you now have to ask him if he is satisfied with what he has right now or does he still needs to reach his goals. You have to make sure that you have the same end goal. If he is still not ready to fully commit to you, then maybe it won’t work.
“The right gift given at the wrong time is still the wrong gift. “
I had a boss once telling me, “Don’t go looking for boys, go look for a man. “, and I am still wondering, how do you meet such a man? “Love yourself first. “, they say. “Make yourself better. “, they say. “When you’re ready, God will let you meet him. “, they say. And it’s easy to believe than to actually do it. It’s easy to say that I am happy being single, and I am truly happy. I have a lot of people that loves me; my family, my friends. I also get to do the things I love; hiking, traveling, going to parties and being crazy sometimes. And in that now, in that moment, I am truly happy with being single. But it also doesn’t mean that I don’t long or wish or pray for my “happily ever after“.
So how do I content myself with being single? “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. “ – Ecclesiastes 3:1. I believe that if it is not now then maybe it is not yet my season. I remind myself that there is a plan for everything. It’s not that I don’t question anymore but I do also pray that I get to accept the things that I cannot understand for my peace of mind, for the peace of my worried heart, for the peace of my searching soul. And I always pray that it will be according to His will.
“We are sure that He hears us if we ask Him for anything that is according to His will. “ – 1 John 5:14.
There will always be doubts, worries, and fears, longing and searching. We can’t avoid that. Even the happiest person can get sad sometimes. You can never be always contented, it’s human nature. But you always have a choice to be happy even with all of the despites. And you get to have that, to choose to love, to accept and to live. Be sad and happy. Be single and ready. Live by and get by. We will always have tomorrows.