How to deal with unrequited love?
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How to deal with unrequited love?

Unrequited. As Merriam Webster defined it, it is something not shared or returned by someone else. Meaning, we are feeling giddy, anxious, overly excited seeing our crush or even the person whom we love at a distance. Without them realizing it. Others, they are inlove with their friends or bestfriends. When the other person hears or knows about it, sometimes, they tend to ignore with the fear of losing a friend and marring a friendship. Maybe, some of us experienced good times with our crush, somehow created a notion in us that they too, liked us. Spent outdoor activities with each other or by group, dining out, laughing and talking about anything, or even sharing stories about personal matter and stuff yet in the end, nothing happened. He did not pursue, leaving you with a lot of questions in mind.
Why not me?
What is wrong with me?
Am I not good enough? Am I not beautiful?
I am smart, hardworking and understanding, can’t he see those traits?
I may not be as pretty and sexy as her, but I can cook and do the laundry? I definitely am a wife material.
Is he blind?
I am not going to hurt him/her. Never. Why can’t he choose me?
Why did he not pursue? What’s holding him back?
What other things should I do to make him notice me?

List goes on and on and on. We are bombarded with these questions in one way or another, with the repercussions of sleeping with heavy eyes from late night’s bawling, losing of appetite and skipping meals, ended up being clumsy and careless at work, releasing anger and frustration in things or in people and feeling sorry for oneself to the point of self-blaming. I know, a single heartbreak can affect everything and anything. It can possibly lead to a disastrous fate with wrong decisions, actions, words, and reactions.

But are we going to allow these things to happen if we only knew our worth? Definitely, not. We may feel the hurt, disappointment and betrayal, that’s valid. But what’s unacceptable is to do silly things we are going to regret later. Once you know your worth, you will rise above the pain. You will forgive yourself and even the other person for leading you on, for hurting you, and for not noticing you. He/she might not see your worth, but somebody else will! When that time comes, your love will return to you full and genuine, not something that is forced and compromised. Instead of asking the same questions when you’re downcast and hopeless, try affirming yourself with these truths.

There is nothing wrong with me. In fact, I am worthy.
I am good enough. I am beautiful.
I am smart, hardworking and understanding. Will continue doing so even if no one will recognize.
I will strive to be the best wife material for my future husband.
Even if I am in pain, I won’t use it to inflict others.
As I wait for the right person to pursue me, I will be the kind of woman that he deserves.
Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things (Philippians 4:8).

Trust me, when you know your worth in Christ, He will validate it for you. He will comfort you, give you peace, wisdom and joy. The love of Christ is complete, not lacking in anything. So if you think that no one is listening to you, connect to God. He is there 24/7. Your love will never be unrequited for Him and your view of love will never be the same again. It won’t be trivial nor shallow nor fleeting for love is a beautiful thing. Do not let painful circumstances redefine it. You are precious and that you deserve best. Cheering you on! God loves you.🤗