Dear Men,
You Are A Protector Not A Player
Every one of us is created by God to be loved, not to be fooled around with. The kind of love He designed for us is not a game that is meant to be played. Not the type that when you get bored, find it difficult, or you lose a round, you can just choose to exit or quit.
If you are still single, remember that you are not “late” for a relationship. Love is not a competition. It is not a race. Moreover, it is not just meant for the short-haul but it is designed to last a lifetime because a love story written by God is meant to be forever and not meant for a certain time. Love is a long, long road—the journey of two people committed with each other “until death do us part”.
We are called to be the protector of a woman’s heart. Her heart is not something you see on the playground that you can play with anytime. Her heart is a treasure in the cave worth pursuing and protecting.
We are called to be the “wall of the house” who gives shield and protection from any harm. In addition to that, you are not only designed as the “Tank” who catches all the attacks to protect her heart but also the “Carry” who fights to win your love story until the end and the “Support” for all of her dreams and desires.
Women need men who will demonstrate the love of God—their warrior and protector (Exo. 15:13) and you are that man!
You Are A Builder Not A Destroyer
We are the ones who should initiate—the one who will plan and create. We are a builder of love, not a demolisher. When you start something, finish it. If you are brave enough to start something in the name of love, be strong enough to end it forever. Do not let a woman fall for you if you’re not ready to catch her.
“Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires” (Song of Songs 2:7). Don’t build emotional attachment if you will just cut it down the road. If you are not totally ready for a relationship, never play or trigger her emotions. Keep in mind that they have emotions too—vulnerable and fragile.
Just because everyone around you is happy with their relationship doesn’t mean you will rush to find one. Rushing things, especially, in the relationship can bring sorrow, not joy, and pain, not maturity. The world we live in is filled with broken people, hearts, and promises. It’s already too much to build another one.
You Are An Encourager Not A Teacher
You will be her companion—until the end. Be that someone who will never disregard her dream but the person who is there to help in achieving it. You are the person who will remind her how faithful God is when her world is out of control. And when her faith is down and her head is full of questions be there not as a teacher, who knows exactly what is going on, but a “friend” and an encourager who’ll lead her to the Rock that is greater than you (Psalm 61:2).
When her mood is unpredictable be that someone who will take care of her. Have patience with her room-for-improvement character because both of you are works in progress. There will be passionate discussions or what you call “love fight” in the journey but never ever leave her. Apologize and accept each mistake. Not all men can do it but you are encouraged to do it.
God prepared a wonderful love story for you. Don’t compare your status with others because it will only bring you desperation and impatience to wait and trust God for His best for you.
Remember, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. . .” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).
