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If you left your partner because you found new ‘kilig’ and ‘excitement’ that didn’t work out after a few months, never think of going back to the person you have broken. Don’t. Just don’t!
Huwag mo siyang balikan kasi alam mong may malaking chance na tatanggapin ka nya ulit. Huwag mo siyang balikan kasi alam mong iniiyakan at hinihintay ka pa rin nya. Huwag na. Pero kung di mo talaga mapigilan, basahin mo muna toh:
You can’t fix what you have broken
While you are busy reading this article, try mo rin makinig sa episode namin:
Huwag mong isiping kaya mo syang pasayahin ulit kaya babalikan mo siya. Huwag mong isiping mabubura mo ang emotional and psychological trauma na pinagdaanan nya kasi mas magiging sweet at caring ka na. Huwag mong isiping mabubuo mo siya ulit kasi bumalik ka na (at ikaw lang ang makakabuo sa kanya).
Pero hindi ibig sabihin eh di ka na pwedeng magkaroon ng second chance. Use your ‘alone’ time to reflect on your actions. Bakit Nawala ang kilig at excitement? Bakit di ngwork ang bago mong relasyon? Learn from your experience. Kapag may matino ka ng realization at gusto mo talaga ng second chance, saka mo siya balikan, pero dapat healed na rin siya from what you have done.
Have the decency to let your partner go in peace
Be a decent human being. If your ex is trying to move on from you and what you have done, let it be. Be decent enough to let them move on in peace.
Huwag mo nang guluhin ang utak at puso nya. Huwag ka ng magchat para sabihing ‘naiisip pa rin kita tuwing matutulog ako sa gabi at gigising sa umaga’. Huwag ng magbigay ng pagasa lalo na kung naisip mo lang naman siya kasi di nagwork out yung pinili mo.
Learn about respect
Cheating is a form of disrespecting your partner. When you cheat, you also disrespect your relationship. Falling for someone while in a relationship is cheating. You fall because you did things that lead to falling out of love. Hindi yun aksidente.
If you are sad and feeling alone kasi namimiss mo na ang ‘to go’ person mo na iniwan mo, huwag mo siyang tawagan kaagad. Reflect! Bakit ba xa nawala? Once you understand that it is your doing kaya nawala siya, mahihiya ka nang guluhin siya. That is a form of respect in itself.
If the person you choose didn’t choose you, don’t go back to the person you have broken after making that decision. The impact of your decision can’t be undone by going back and promising that it will not happen again. Unless you become a decent and respectful human being, you should not try to fix what you have broken.