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You know love has been so mysterious for everybody, I guess. Simply because everybody has different definition of love, different way of receiving love, and different way of showing love. Iba iba kasi talaga tayo ng pananaw sa pag ibig e, diba? Iba iba ren tayo ng hinahanap para masabi natin na pagmamahal na ang pinapakita ng isang tao, syempre iba ren naman yung pamamaraan natin ng pagtugon. LOVE INDEED IS MYSTERIOUS. Pero alam mo? My philosophy of love is like this, “LOVE is a BEAUTIFUL CHANGE.” Naniniwala kasi ako na love is not jsut change, it IS a beautiful change. Para sakin, I would know it is love when it makes beautiful changes in me. Na I’m becoming a better person. Kasi I believe that you can say you love a person already if you want to become better, not for yourself but for that person. Hindi ka magbabago para lang magpa impress sa kanya or sa kung sino man sa buhay nya, kundi dahil gusto mo lang na lahat ng maibibigay mo para sa kanya ay yung ikakabuti nya; and through that mas malakas yung drive na maging mas okay pa kesa sa dating ikaw. Alisin yung mga mali at iimprove ang mga tama. Now, LOVE INDEED IS BEAUTIFUL. Because it makes you a better person for the person you love. Pero it is indeed a warning when you are trying to be a better person pero yung taong mahal mo naman yung nag pupush sayo na maging masama, which in turn, obvious na hindi ka mahal ng tao na yun. YOU HAVE TO RUN FAST AWAY FROM THAT PERSON, alam mo kung bakit? Kasi you’ll have the transition from BAD to WORSE. Na in the end hindi mo mapapakinabangan.
Sa trial and error naman na sinasabi mo, love shouldn’t be viewed that way, kasi kung ganun ang pananaw mo, hindi ba parang wala kang ingat na ginagawa, kasi ang nasa isip mo, “Try ko lang wala namang mawawala, malay mo naman mag work out diba? Pag hinde, edi hinde. Ang mahalaga sinubukan!” Ang ganyang mindset ay hindi dapat nilalagay sa paghahanap ng taong mamahalin, kasi usapang damdamin at buhay ng tao ang nakasalalay dito e. Hindi naman ‘to basta trabaho na basta kumikita ka ayos lang. HAHAHA. Yun na nga e, sobrang maiksi lang ang buhay kaya dapat pinag iisipan nating mabuti yung mga bagay na hahayaan nating mangyare sa buhay natin e. Kasi kung hindi, yung maiksing buhay na yun ay mapupuno lang ng pagsisisi. Sayang lang, diba? Sabi mo nga, hindi lahat ng tagay nakakasatisfy, so bakit mo pa hahayaang malasing ka kagad? HAHAHA. Let’s take it metaphorically. Saglit lang ang inuman, (yun yung buhay) lahat ng tagay na nakahain sayo, (yan yung mga bagay na meron ang mundo para sayo, kusa mang lumapit o hindi) mabilis kang malalasing o tutumba kung lahat ng tagay iniinom mo (buhay mo, kasi in the end mamatay din naman tayo pero depende yun kung papahabain mo pa buhay mo base sa mga pinag gagagawa mo.) Kaya minsan habang nasa inuman, nakikipag usap ka rin, nagsasalita ka at nakikinig, hindi yung tungga lang ng tungga (ibig sabihin nyan, dapat may pinakikinggan ka ren at may pinagsasabihan ng mga problema mo, para chill lang at may natutunan kayo sa isa’t isa) Diba?
LOVE IS TOO SHORT TO SPEND IT WITH REMORSE. Kaya nga may tinatawag tayong vicarious experiences e. Mga karanasan ng ibang tao na kapupulutan natin ng aral at hindi na kailangan danasin pa natin bago matutunan. HEHEHE. So it is not try lang ng try, hanggang sa mamatay.
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Another thing is, kaya nga tayo may tinatawag na “getting to know each other” portion sa ligawan e, kasi we are assessing ourselves if we will match with the other, diba? At hindi dapat maiksi to, kasi hindi mo agad makikilala ang isang tao ng ganun kabilis. Time and testings will reveal someone’s character den kasi. Mas okay na na tumalikod ka saying to that person after months or year of getting to know eah other na di pala talaga kayo compatible, nang wala pang commitment. Kesa naman commitment muna bago getting to know each other. Not because there’s a spark, there’s a connection, minsan baka na ground ka lang. HAHAHA.
What you give is what you will have in return. Give fake love and fake love will pave all the path just to come to you and teach the lesson you need to learn. Do to others what you want others do unto you. Don’t forget that.
KARMA, or God’s vengeance makes it all tie.
But you know, sa Bible mo makikita yung totoong definiton ng love. I’ll show you.
1st Corinthians 13:4-7
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
That’s the perfect definition of love. Sana maintindihan mo yan.
