Single and Secure

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡 𝐈𝐬: 𝐒𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐥𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐒𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐞

I know some people who are in a relationship, but are still suffering from a broken heart. I can’t count with one hand the broken marriages in this world. People are looking for satisfaction in a relationship and trying to find security in their partners. But the bigger truth is, a relationship will never ever satisfy you. Your partner will drain from giving the security that you want, only for you to end up being insecure and stagnant, because you were never secure in your singleness. So let me help you with the truth and learn how to be single and secure in the LORD.

1. 𝙇𝙚𝙩 𝙂𝙤𝙙 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙛𝙞𝙧𝙨𝙩.
Before God will bring the one He prepared for you, He wants a relationship with you first. A husband/wife will never satisfy you, Jesus does. God designed us to be in fellowship with Him. We are His, before we are someone’s partner. Singleness is not a curse, but a gift from God. It is a season where God will give you, your true identity and purpose. The enemy’s greatest fear is you, knowing your identity and true purpose. The enemy wants to distract you with lies that you need to be in a relationship to feel loved and secured. But the truth is, you don’t need a man/woman to prove that you are loved, Jesus already did that on the cross. Let God love you first, for He is the Source of love, and you cannot give what you don’t have.

2. 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙣 𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙨𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙤𝙣 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚.
Singleness comes first before marriage. It is a season where you take full responsibility and accountability of yourself. How can you be responsible in a relationship, if you can’t be responsible in your singleness? God wants you to take your time in knowing yourself. What I learned from listening preaching of an anointed man of God is, you can’t figure out how to love somebody else in a relationship if you don’t figure out how to love yourself in singleness. I know that marriage is beautiful and exciting, but God wants you to view singleness in a degree of how you view marriage. There is nothing wrong with the season that you are in. You are not forgotten by God, you are just in the right place, and behind the scene He is already preparing someone for you.

3. 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙖 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙤𝙣 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜.
In Genesis 2:18, the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” You may be single for a long time, but God wants a relationship FOR YOU, after He builds a relationship WITH YOU. God wants what is best for you, that’s why He doesn’t want you to be in a rush, but wait for the man who has the same goals and vision with you. He has already designed a helper for you, fit for the ministry that you are in and calling that you are trying to pursue. God will send you a person who will be a good helper in serving the LORD. God is thinking about you and your future spouse, but He wants you to wait for now. There is a time and a season for everything. Wait, I can assure you, it is going to be worth it. You are loved and precious in God’s sight. Isaiah 43:4 says, “Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you, I will give people in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life.” God will not just give you people, He will give you a nation of armies in the LORD.

If you focus on your status and season of singleness, you lose sight of Jesus. But the truth is, you can still walk in security even if you’re single, you just have to put your faith to our Promisor, God, for He who promised is faithful. Maximize your singleness, and move mountains. Singleness is awesome.