Takot Tumandang Dalaga

Age: 25

Profession: Teacher

Status: NBSB

Marami raw guro ang tumatandang dalaga dahil masyadong dedikado sa pagtuturo, wala ng oras para sa sarili.

In my age, my friends are currently in a serious relationship and some of them are getting married. I have been receiving invitations in their child’s baptisms/dedications or birthdays. Whenever I see my high school classmates, they always bug me with questions about having a boyfriend. And every time I answer with a NO, they ask WHY? At tumigil ang mundo…

Yes, I sometimes feel left out.

I am someone who never had a boyfriend. NBSB. Yes, there are people — genuine Christians — that I come to like, but we didn’t end up being together. Friends naman kami. And i just believe that God has better plans for me or the time is not right.

Minsan, nahihirapan tayo maghintay dahil hindi natin makita yung hinihintay natin. Masakit ikumpara ang sarili sa iba: bakit sila meron na? Ano bang mali sa’kin? Am I not mature enough? But then, we will fall back to the truth that we were created by God uniquely. Thus, we have different timelines.

We may feel envious, jealous, or anxious. Nakakatakot pag ikaw na lang ang single sa mga kaibigan mo. Nakakakaba na. Mapapatanong ka na lang na kung bakit ang tagal? Minsan, nakakatempt na rin na gayahin ang mundong ito. Pero hindi tayo tinawag dito.

God has a purpose for every season. SINGLENESS HAS A PURPOSE. Iniisip ko na lang na may dahilan kung bakit single pa ako. Iniisip ko na may gusto pa S’ya na gawin ko habang single pa ako.

I am currently leading our campus ministry in our church. God has been using me to help some of my friends in their struggles. God has been teaching me a lot of things about  Himself, that this life is all about Him and not about us. Some of these, I believe, I will not learn or experience if I enter a relationship that is not according to His will.

Besides, happiness and contentment are not found in human relationships. It can only be found in Christ alone. Hindi naman lahat ng nasa relationship ay masaya. Marami ang nagtitiis sa maling desisyon nila. And truly, there’s nothing more satisfying than hearing our Father’s voice saying “Well done, my good and faithful servant.”

To my future partner in serving the Master, I pray for you. We may feel anxious or envious at times, but I believe that we are being molded into what God called us to be. And when the time is right, we will serve and glorify Him together

I am excited to know you and to grow old with you. Kaya patuloy lang tayo sa kung saan tayo tinawag ng Diyos. Magkakakilala din tayo sa kung pano nagkakilala si Ruth at Boaz. That’s not a coincidence, that’s His will for His purpose.