Sorry! I am still new to this thing. I never had a chance to experience this kind of dating. I was still stuck in my old self: this conformity of being a gentleman in this easy-to-get relationship. All I know is that women admire this kind of attitude towards them, but why is it difficult to express this emotion under this circumstance?
I was under the impression that courting is a combination of showing interest with the addition of emotional feelings toward your counterpart. Now, all I could see are relationships that have pre-requisite towards shallowness, short-term, and casual chase. I could no longer see people giving chances to others in this romantic pursuit.
How come this is not the thing I got used to anymore? Anything goes! This casual intimacy is full of simplicity in picking their relationship. If you are not pleasantly looking, you would not get a chance to know the person or vice-versa. They are benched into this odd world and not even getting a crack at it. You are not able to showcase your uniqueness because of this lack of outer appearance.
There is this reel on Instagram on vulnerability towards entering a relationship. The man mentioned that men and women love differently. Men lose grounding and that rational thought to which he was asked that he was losing that opportunity to feel emotion. Men love women for real. “Women love men under the premise that they provide value. Men love women idealistically, and women love from an opportunistic standpoint.” Is this practical? Or is this another requirement to enter a relationship?
Being a man in this dating scene is difficult. If you are not able to provide, you will not be entertained. If you are not appealing, not even a glance is given to you. Men who struggle to cope with this are admirable, and yet no one bats an eye to them. No matter how high your standards are, they still strive to reach them even if reaching them means taking some parts of them.
Ladies, I understand you are taking care of yourself. That is why you have this wall that you made. Fuck boys, opportunistic men, boys who can shave. I know. I apologize on behalf of the men here. Not everyone is like them, I assure you. Let me ask you this: is that wall even needed in the first place? Or was it there to serve as a filter to your checklist guy? I don’t understand why you keep on looking for your Superman when you don’t even know who Clark Kent is.
I believe that everyone has a fighting chance. This line sequence from the movie Hitch is one of my favorites: “Does it ever occur to women that maybe a guy might like to have a plan because he’s nervous? He’s not sure that he could just walk up to you and you’d respond if he said: “I like you.”…The only time he was sincere or spontaneous was when everything was going wrong or when you were stoned out of your head…You trick women into getting…into getting out of their own way…so great guys like Albert Brennaman have a fighting chance. No, I want everybody to take a good look at this right now. Because this right here, this is exactly why falling in love is so g**d*mn hard.” I had to skip some of the lines because they were lines from the other characters. If you want, you could watch the movie so you can see the speed dating scene.
Yes, falling in love is hard, but I still believe we could be loved if we give ourselves that chance. Chance for the right person to exhibit that opportunity to you. Don’t let it die out for them just because they have nothing at the moment. A man thrives in nothing but would do what it takes to give you something.
