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Status: In a relationship, but are you really in a relationship with the person or just the feeling of being in a relationship?
In this modern world full of Romcoms, Most people cant help but seek their Ideal partners based on what they see (physical appearance) and who resembles their Idols or Bias, but have you ever asked yourself, Am I inlove with the person or just the idea of being inlove?.
To answer that, Only you will know. I mean lets be honest, Only you will know what your feelings is towards a certain person.
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The Idea of being inlove with the relationship is focused on illusions, You are always conscious of what people will think of you in the outside. You want people seeing you as one of those couple in movies who kisses each other in the rain, runs together in the sunset, but you know what? Real love is more than just Grand gestures, it is how you value and cherish not just the memories but also value the person who you spent that moment with. You don’t just focus on what the present has to offer but you are both building your futures as well together.
Being inlove with the person means you feel secure around them, vulnerable around them and lastly you feel blessed around them.
You don’t compare them to your past.
You put your ego down because you love and dont want to lose the person.
You don’t just share happiness but also you share each other’s flaws. You push each other to be the best version of themselves as you both know you can be more. Real love is not just about happiness, there is always struggle. There is no perfect relationship, it is just up to us who we want to struggle with.
You don’t compare your relationship to others as you are contented with what you have.
You dont ask the person to be who you want them to be. You choose and accept them just the way they are.
Relationships is not just about love, you both know how to communicate, Respect and ofcourse trust each other.
You don’t care what other people think of you. You’re not in a relationship together to please them to begin with.
You don’t ask for more as when you know you love the person, they are already more than enough for you.
If you are committed to somebody, you dont Allow yourself to find perfection in someone else.
It is basically almost the same as Love vs Infatuation. Infatuation is temporary but Love is lasting. You see the person as a potential lifetime partner, not just a status for you to brag with.
And with that said, ask yourself,
are you inlove with the person or the the idea of being in a relationship?.
