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That is how people describe me. Before, it’s a music in my hears receiving this kind of feedback. It’s really flattering naman, right? You know being kind means having good traits. Having good traits mean very rewarding. Very rewarding means you make people want you.
But I was wrong. I learned that being kind doesn’t automatically equate to having a fruitful end.
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They say that I was ideal for a man (just disregard the physical aspect). Then again, ideal is different from reality.
One of the saddening feedback I’ve heard from too much kindness I possess is being boring. I was shocked to hear that from someone close to my heart. I always thought girls dream of kind guys. Well, they always do but not the other breed — the Mother Theresa incarnate. For them, these kinds of guys are “boring” & no challenge at all.
I can’t wrap up my head on the idea that there are people who perceive your excessive kindness as your flaw, especially for a potential partner. Hello? You wanted some guy who make you a punching bag ba? As long as it fits to your standard of not being boring? I don’t what should I do anymore.
But in a way, I don’t disregard the fact that might be true. As they say, too much of everything is bad as too little. There is pain, it means there has to be changed. Maybe I should change a part of my kindness. I don’t want to get rid this trait to suit their preference but I’m now doing this for safety precautions. I can still be kind to other while protecting myself with the potential pain.