Do you know the song “I’d still say yes” from Klymaxx? It is actually about second chances in love. But the question is this, should I say yes?? Should I have to??
What I will share is about unrequited love, second chances and panliligaw. Not all persons that we will love is the one for us, or should I say, either wala sa kanila or isa sa kanila. Meron ba tayo na pinahalagahan, minahal na specific na tao na tingin mo worth na mahalin muli after a series of heartaches?
All I can say, and I think most of you guys will agree with me na meron specific someone na worth a shot. Maybe, he or she has not yet hit our “relationship busters” or somewhat na-hit nya pero dahil labs na labs mo nga, madali mo matanggap ulet. But the question is, should I? Hanggang kailan? Upto when you will still say “yes” to him/her? Kapag ba wasak ka na, kaya mo pa ba mag “yes”?
Same din sa panliligaw. Ilang attempt bago ka bumitaw? Kapag ba naubos mo na ung lahat ng stike sa nine innings ng baseball (3 strike per inning)? Hanggang kailan na sya pa rin? Kapag ba nag-yes na sya? Oh, that’s good. Pero paano kung hanggang ngayon, naubos mo na lahat ng strike sa nine innings at ang sagot pa rin nya is a “no”, “friendship lang ang kaya kong ibigay sa’yo…” or any type of sugar coated “no” answers.
Hanggang kailan nga ba? Hmmm… All I can say is kung kailan ba dapat; 1. Kung sa proseso na ‘yon (ligaw, unrequited love, second chances) ay kilala mo pa rin ang sarili mo – as long as your identity is not yet compromised; 2. Kung alam mo pa din ung worth mo – self worth; 3. Kung hindi ka pa binabastos – self respect; 4. At higit sa lahat, hindi nako-compromise ung faith mo kay God. As long as ok pa ‘yan at kaya pa ng loob mo, sige lang. Ask God na lang for strength to continue, patience to wait more and for God to fill you with love. Kailan ka naman titigil? Syempre, pag isa sa mga ‘yan ay nabalewala, itigil mo na. Ask God for strength to stop, a will to go to the next chapter of your life and restoration mo. We should remember that God loves us, we are paid a price, we should know our identity, our worth and our position in Christ. We should know when to say yes and when to stop. May kasabihan pa nga na magtira ka para sa sarili mo. Kutusan kaya kita sa bangs, hahaha…
At the end of the day, ask God before saying “yes” to him or her again. He will guide you back on the right track. Maybe He wants you to continue tapos bumitaw ka na, or He wants you to stop pero nag-“yes” ka pa rin. Huwag masyadong marupok bess, huwag ding masyadong maging matigas.
