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Marahil, magaling ka nang magluto.
The best na rin ang iyong organization skills as well as ang pagma-manage mo ng iyong time.
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Palagi ka ring mabango at presentable.
Magaling ka pa sa mga bata.
You have it all na, kumbaga, and you are wondering what else to learn during your prolonged season of singleness.
You have the skills na naman sana to be a good girlfriend, a better wife and the best mom.
If so, what else are left for you to cultivate in yourself now that you have the freedom only single people have?
Actually, marami pa.
As long as you are alive, you will always have room to refine yourself.
Pero heto, may tatlo dito na you could start with.
1) JOY
You could call this the skill to be happy even when you dislike what is happening around you.
Yung tipong nalulungkot ka man pero hindi ka nawawalan ng pag-asa.
Alam mo ang gagawin para kumalma ka when you start to feel anxious and you are also aware kung anu-ano ang mga mabubuting bagay that can perk you up.
Joy comes when you savor the present as the gift that it is.
It is looking at what is right there before you and appreciating them for the value they are adding into your life right now.
Ang pagiging maligaya is something na tila unti-unti nang nawawala ngayon sa ating mundo na tila palaging nagmamadali, laging nagko-compare at palaging naiinggit.
Ika nga nila: “If the grass is greener on the other side, water your own garden.”
Huwag tingin ng tingin sa kabila if nahihirapan kang mag-rejoice sa success ng iba.
Instead, actively engage your mind in finding or doing the things that refresh your soul.
Learn how not to take yourself too seriously.
Matuto kang tanggapin na hindi ka perfect para kapag nagka-blooper ka, keri mong pagtawanan ang iyong sariIi ng hindi ito kinokondena.
This is something you can consciously develop ngayong single ka.
2) FORGIVENESS
Matindi to.
Gaano ka kadalas naiirita?
What things annoy you?
How do you deal with people na nakaka-inis?
When a person offends you, how long does it take you to face the person without revenge in mind?
Anong ginagawa mo tuwing may urge kang gumanti sa nagkasala sa’yo?
Are there people you harbor grudges with?
You see, we can always disagree without remaining angry.
In fact, it is best to sleep na hindi galit kanino man.
If you haven’t answered those questions before, why don’t you seize your opportunities as a single lady to find out how good you are in forgiving others?
Learning to forgive is actually finding out how to keep yourself from tormenting your own mind over and over again.
The sooner you acquire this ability, the quicker you can live a life of authentic liberty.
3) QUITTING
Nung mga bata pa tayo, tinuruan tayo na “Quitters never win and winners never quit”.
Pero nakalimutan nilang sabihin na we also need to let go of the pretty, glass marbles in our hands so we could hold real diamonds.
There are comforting habits we need to stop so that we can truly be alive.
There are people who drain the life out of us whom we need to say goodbye to, even if we appear selfish to do so.
You see, ang mga magagaling manloko are those who always promise na magbabago na sila but their actions prove otherwise.
Dapat mong matutunang mag-observe ng facts and kumilos based on reality and not based sa wini-wish ng heart mo na mangyari.
Also, you must know your limits and boundaries.
Hindi ka dapat palaging, ” Yes, po” kasi the usual enemy of the best is the better.
You need to abandon the better for the best.
So ngayong single ka, mabuti para sa’yo na ma-learn what things you need to quit from and when to quit from them.
Kasi, ang totoo, those who quit from the wrong mindset, habits and people win, and those who win have quit from the wrong mindset, habits and people.
Pero being magaling sa joy, forgiveness at quitting ay imposible sa mga ordinaryong tao.
Kakailanganin mo ang tulong ng Maykapal.
On the bright side, God is actually ready to help you and give you these skills!
First, you need to have a personal relationship with Him na mangyayari lamang if you receive Christ in your life as your Savior and Lord.
Get to know Him by reading the Bible, praying and worshipping Him kasama ang mga taong nagmamahal din sa Kanya.
As you do this, you will learn how to be controlled by the Holy Spirit.
He will cause you to do what is right and pleasant for your life.
While you walk with The Lord, magugulat ka na lang na joyful ka na pala, mabilis kang mag-forgive, at magaling nang bumitiw sa mga dapat bitawan para iyong makamit ang mga nararapat mong makamtan.
Now is the perfect moment for you to take that step towards God, tungo sa isang maligaya at mapagpatawad na puso, tungo sa natatangi at magandang buhay that He has especially designed for you to live.
