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To whom is letting go for?

Letting go is not only for those who had a real relationship with someone but also for those who almost had a relationship with someone.

For some, letting go of someone who you just had good memories with, confessed his feelings to you, spent time late at night with you is just easy. There was no label. There was no real relationship. There was no real commitment. You were never officially together. So, why will it be hard to let go of someone who was just an almost – almost in a relationship with.

I will tell you why.

The only thing an almost never had was label. But everything else, it had.

An almost also gave you promises to hold on to.
An almost also shared good memories with you.
An almost also said sweet words to you like ‘I love you’ and ‘I miss you’
An almost also expressed his feelings to you.
An almost also saw the future with you.
An almost also, at one point, was committed to you.
An almost also gave you love and hope.
An almost also made you happy and kilig.
An almost was also a relationship just with no label.

but the almost, just like real relationships, made you feel that you are loved and worthy.

And when that almost never crossed the line to pursue you, it hurts. And that pain has to be let go of.

So please, do not tell us that we do not have the right to be in pain and move on because just like you, we also loved. Letting go of our almost is never easy. It will take time.