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Content from the BW Podcast
Change
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Someone with the proven ability to change. There’s growth.
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There’s change! Hindi puro promises at potentials.
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potential is potential but potential is useless without cultivation
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like a rich soil, or a deposit of oil underground, or a stack of cash
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This green flag is a person who has worked on something difficult and you watched them improve and can witness how different they are in the present with this new skill.
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There are some things na willing siya to change (not everything, not his core values) to prove his/her love to you.)
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If we stop growing, we stop loving.
Conflict Management
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Not all conflict are beneficial. Conflict is only healthy if its managed well.
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They are willing to set in the negotiation table. Hindi yung aayaw kagad or biglang tatahimik. Silent treatment to icing-manlalamig hangggang ikaw na lang manunuyo.
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This skill is hard to develop. Not so natural.
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Sitting through uncomfortable spaces is a part of every relationship.
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Choose people who choose you over their pride.
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Managed Conflicts are your relationship badges.
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Fight, but fight clean.
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They respect your boundaries.
Direction over Emotion
- Emotions are thermometer not thermostat
- Observe mo ano yung intention at match ba sa actions
- Mature people will match their intention with their actions
- Not allergic sa DTR, they will give the clarity you deserve
- There’s clarity of purpose of the relationship, hindi go with the flow lang.
Maturity
- They can fight for their worth and values, (one maturity test is they respect their values)
- What you believe about yourself determines the kind of relationship you believe you deserve.
- They can decide, they know what’s wrong and what’s right
- Yes is Yes, No is No
- They are not an open door
- Their identity is not in the relationship
- Believe it or not, real men are more interested in the size of a woman’s heart and mind than the size of her waist.
- They invest in their character growth
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